Sexual selection and penis size

Penis size and it's role in sexual selection

Men ought to know the truth about penis size. We provide up-to-date, accurate information about penis matters ranging from average penis sizes to penis enlargement. One subject that pops up when it comes to penis size - how happy are the women with the men's sizes when it comes to long-term planning and family building. Since human peer bonding is more complex than that of other animals, sexual selection is also more complex.

One thing to remember is that humans have the largest penises among primates. So it is likely that for the evolutionary reasons, a larger penis was more desirable in a mate at some stage of human development. Which is not necessarily relevant today.

Penis size and sexual selection.

Sexual selection, which can be defined as:

natural selection arising through preference by one sex for certain characteristics in individuals of the other sex.

So what do women look for in partners. 

10 science-backed attractive qualities in men in the eyes of women

  • Good looks: Whilst attractiveness matters initially, it becomes less relevant for long-term relationships. 
  • Sense of humour: A potential mate appears more intelligent, emotionally closer and more positive.
  • Altruism and kindness: A potential mate who is more likely to look after her and her/their children.
  • Status: Appearing better off, wealthier is attractive. 
  • Age: Women prefer men who are older because they have had more time to acquire more resources.
  • Being popular/ being less attainable: Being harder to get is not a turn-off.
  • Being a leader: Whether having loyal pet in form of a dog or teammates, leaders are attractive.
  • Being mindful: good listeners, non judgemental and attentive men are more desirable.
  • Confidence: Similar to being a leader, confidence inspires attraction.
  • Good health: Physique and being healthy generally is attractive.
  • Height: A universally accepted trait that is associated with male attractiveness
  • Deep voice: Usually correlated with male hormones, it is found attractive by women.

 

All of the points above are common sense, but for some reason wearing red is also more attractive. Overall the points above can be summarized as masculinity or manliness. However, that is a subjective view, moreover culturally speaking facial features and even the definition of a healthy male differs. So an attractive male in one culture may be unattractive in another.

Moreover, on an individual basis attractiveness is entirely subjective. 

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder

So what about penis size? Whilst relevant to sexual satisfaction, a penis size plays a less significant role than other factors. Penis size which may or may not be instrumental in achieving orgasm in females 

It is important to understand three distinct facts about sex and relationships.

1. Sex is important in a relationship, however it plays a less important role in matured relationships, or as time goes on.

2. Sexual pleasure derives from  physical intimacy and emotional intimacy, penis size is irrelevant to the latter.

3. Physical intimacy, in regards to sexual pleasure is a complex process, however it is known that lesbian couples are more likely to achieve orgasm then heterosexual couples (so penis even in that regard is not necessarily a bonus when the goal is to reach orgasm).

Female sexual satisfaction and penises, size is not everything
When it comes to sexual selection, having a penis is not everything

Human sexual selection

The sexual selection concept arises from the observation that many animals including humans develop features whose function is not to help individuals survive, but help them to maximize their reproductive success.

Sexual selection presents in species in two different ways: by making self attractive to the opposite sex (intersexual selection, between the sexes); or by intimidating, deterring or defeating same-sex rivals (intrasexual selection, within a given sex).

We are all familiar with the concept of "alpha male" and how they get all the chicks. The German anthropologist Ferdinand Fellman argues that the emergence of human self-consciousness is due to an extended sexual selection, termed "emotional selection", bridging the gap between animal sexual behavior and human erotic love.

Apparently even the human language may have derived to be more complex than other primate languages due to the romantic needs of the individuals through sexual display. It is not uncommon in the animal kingdom for some species to share sexual displays with humans, where the trait itself is not strictly sexual. Birds for example sing to attract a mate, and humans value voice in matters of sexual selection.

Darwinists believe that the human brain itself, it being so 'unnecessarily' big and expensive to maintain in terms of survival shows that it is itself a sexual trait. Since humans are social beings, often the traits that are valued by the female are those that make men stand out in the social sense. Authority, respect, wealth and power are often thought to be correlated with what the female looks for in a mate.

Intellect itself is seen as a byproduct of sexual selection.

Human female and male sexual physiology

Sexual selection is a complex process

Evolutionary speaking, penis size, large or small gives no significant advantage or disadvantage to the male. The human sperm can live up to seven days and travel after ejaculation to reach the egg of the female for the process of reproduction.

When it comes to penis size though everything is less clear. Due to physiology of a male human body the penis and the ballsack is clearly visible and in ancient history it was on full display. So erections, most likely, were common and clearly visible.

The evolutionary biologist Richard Dawkins has put forward an idea that the loss of the penis bone in humans, which is present in other primates, may also be due to sexual selection by females whom are seeking clear signs of indicators of good health in prospective mates. Since a human erection is easily attainable and readily displayed (in part due to human upright posture), a penis relies on a hydraulic pumping system to reach an erection, whilst an erection failure or inability to reach a full erection is a sensitive early warning of certain kinds of physical and mental ill health and an indicator of a male's lack of fitness.

This remains true today, as a number of men suffer from erectile dysfunction primarily as a result of bad diet, lack of exercise and unnecessary stressful life. A large penis may have some negative impact on female health due to possible rips and tears, especially at the cervix, which may cause all types of conditions from bladder deceases to urinary infections.

Penis size is attractive but not necessarily important in long-term sexual selection

When it comes to physiology, the aforementioned Ferdinand Fellman had put forward a slightly modified model of "emotional selection" comparing to the traditional Darwinian model of "sexual selection" for humans, as the centre point of human evolution of consciousness (which brought about complex emotions).

Part of the survival edge is due to a rare ability of humans to find mates for long term, which allows humans and females in particular to have feelings and feelings about feelings, therefore driving the proposed means of human intelligence and consciousness. Another proposed idea is that with a long-term mate, a being can save energy from competition in the future mating seasons and use that energy to provide for the offspring instead.

There is a difference between attractiveness and looking for a long-term mate. Whilst studies in various countries have indicated that women prefer men with penises that are longer and thicker, there is no evidence to suggest that when looking for a mate a penis size matters. However, since human penis size in relation to their body size is the largest comparing to any primate it may suggest it had played a role in sexual selection in some way. Attractiveness of a male in itself is a series physical, psychological and social traits and characteristics, so penis size on it's own is of very little importance when it comes to selecting males.

Penis size helps but it's not the most important characteristic in a mate

Is penis size important for other primates?

The average penis length of the Silverback Highland Gorilla is ~2.5 inches. They seem to be able to hold on to a few females, do the job in half the time and they are about twice as muscular or "manly" as the most muscular manly men. One can admire the balls of the researcher who took the measurements.

Practically speaking penis sizes don't really come into it and when looking for a mate human female will prefer a confident, socially adapt male which can get an erection rather than a social donkey even when he's got with a big floppy dick. Moreover, on average women in the West report approximately 8 to 15 sexual partners in their lifetime, including one night stands, whilst men report more, which is considered an exaggeration.

In that time it is unlikely that a female can actively select a mate based on penis size, since the majority of men come within range of average. In reality it's a combination of other factors that contribute to the process of sexual selection rather than penis size, which although may be weighed - presents only a minor characteristic that is considered.

In terms of sexual selection it is understood that women place more importance on some physical characteristics such as height and hip to shoulder ratio and social characteristics such as status, wealth and kindness.

So the chances of finding a long-term mate for a male with an small penis is about the same as that of someone with a large dong.